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SELF-TALK

You’re worth something now

Early in his career, long before anyone bought a painting, Van Gogh wrote to his brother: “If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”

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STORYTELLING

Join your story with “but” and “so”

The creators of South Park once explained how they check whether an episode is good. They write out everything that happens, one line per event, and look at the words that sit between the lines. If the lines are joined by “and then”, the episode is gonna be boring.

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Stop making your work look easy

One easy way to get under-credited at work is to make difficult things look routine. You spend two days untangling bad data, chasing down missing context and fixing someone else's assumptions, then send: "Done! Here's the answer." To most, it’ll look like it was easy.

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Disagree with a question, not a statement

When someone senior proposes something flawed, "I disagree, that won't work" forces them to defend it. Now it's their ego vs. your point, and their ego wins. Instead, ask the question that leads them to the flaw: "How are we thinking about this handling the Q4 volume spike?"

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Ask "is this reversible?" to unstick any decision

Teams agonize over decisions as if every choice is permanent. Almost none are. There are two kinds of decisions: one-way doors (can't undo → quitting, firing, signing the big contract) and two-way doors (walk back through anytime → the tool, the format, the process tweak).

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Do one five-minute favor a week

Some favors are wildly asymmetric: five minutes for you, potentially huge for the other person: forwarding a job post, introducing two people, sharing your template, a 5-minute gut-check on their draft.

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Write emails people can answer from their phone

A habit worth building early: whenever you write to someone, do the thinking on your side, so all that's left on theirs is a decision. "Thoughts on this?" hands them work — they now have to figure out what you're really asking, form a view, and compose an answer.

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Ask "is this a priority or are you thinking out loud?"

A weird dynamic you’ve probably experienced: the more senior someone is, the more their offhand comments get treated as orders. A VP muses "have we ever looked at X?" in a meeting, and someone burns two weeks building a deck on X — that the VP didn’t really care about.

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A 30-minute meeting doesn't cost 30 minutes

For managers, meetings are the job — their day is already chopped into hourly slots, so one more costs exactly one slot. But for anyone doing deep work (coding, writing, analysis), a 2pm meeting doesn't cost 30 minutes. It costs the whole afternoon: the morning is spent knowing it's coming, and real focus can't spin up in the fragments around it.

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Say the nice thing when they're not in the room

Most people save compliments for the person's face. But praise actually hits hardest secondhand — when it gets back to someone that you said something good about them when you had nothing to gain. "Oh, Jordan mentioned you crushed that presentation" lands ten times harder than Jordan telling you directly, because there's no angle to it.

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Make your most common emails memorable

In your career, you're gonna write hundreds of emails that people have seen before — intros, thank-yous, follow-ups. Most of these instantly get forgotten because they're generic ("Nice to meet you" or "Thank you for your time yesterday").

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How to make your thank-yous better

A simple trick when sending thank-you messages professionally: always include a small, specific value-add. Instead of just saying thanks and immediately asking for another favor (which can feel transactional), mention something genuinely useful or interesting that's related to your last conversation.

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End meetings 5 minutes early

If a meeting's scheduled for 30 minutes but everything's covered in 20 — end it. Don't fill the remaining time just because the calendar says so. A lot of people treat scheduled time like it has to be used up, so they start pulling in loosely related topics or rehashing things that are already decided. Finishing early shows you know what the meeting was actually for — to make decisions. Your colleagues will quietly love you for it.

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Stop saying "does that make sense?”

It's tempting to ask this after explaining something, but it signals uncertainty — you're basically asking people to confirm you did a good enough job communicating. It puts doubt on everything you just said. Ditch it. Along with stuff that makes you sound uncertain — like: "Am I being clear?" "Sorry, that was probably confusing.".

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How I think about nervousness

I love when I feel nervous - which I know sounds a bit weird. Why? Because I’ve realized it means I’m doing something I genuinely care about, or something outside my comfort zone (a good place to be!).

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Connect the dots backward

Have you ever stopped to look back at your career? There's a Steve Jobs quote I think about a lot: "You can’t connect the dots looking forward, only looking backwards."

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How to get better feedback

A small thing I've learned about feedback: general requests ("Any feedback?") almost always produce vague, generic responses ("Yeah, it was great!"). If you want useful input, get specific.

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The hidden cost of looking unapproachable

I think something people rarely think about — but should — is whether they’re easy to approach at work. Opportunities often start casually, like someone inviting you to something or asking your input on a quick question. But if you accidentally look stressed or serious (we all do this!), people might hesitate: "Oh, you looked busy," or "You seemed annoyed."

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It’s okay to have ‘materialistic’ goals

Quick rant: I don't think it's bad at all to have materialistic goals (like wanting to fly business class, or buy a nice handbag). People sometimes get judgy about it, but I think whatever motivates you is good - especially if it gets you moving. Often the "shallow" goals push you and then later on you end up finding deeper reasons to keep pushing forward anyway. So don't discount them - and definitely don't judge others for theirs either.

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Speak slower and pause more

Something helpful if you're trying to sound more confident at work: slow down your speech and pause slightly longer between points. Most people rush or ramble because they're uncomfortable with silence, but short pauses actually make you sound more sure of what you're saying. It's a small change, but surprisingly effective.

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Don't just flag problems, suggest a fix

When you run into an issue at work, don’t just tell your manager or team "Hey, this broke, what should I do?" Instead, always pair the problem with a suggested solution ("Here's what's broken, and here's how I think we can handle it").

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Good leaders are always clear upfront

A big difference I notice between average and strong employees is clarity. Average employees and managers don’t know what they want and set vague meetings ("quick sync about strategy"), which tend to waste time. The best employees clearly state exactly what decision they need ("choose our vendor by EOD"), required prep ("read this short doc"), and a simple agenda.

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My "10% different" strategy

I think a good trick for standing out professionally is just doing things slightly differently than what's expected. For example, almost everyone uses identical email sign-offs ("Speak soon"), so even a tiny tweak (like “Can’t wait to compare notes on this,”) to it makes people notice you more.

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Wait until you're less heated

A good rule for handling tense or frustrating situations at work is to always give yourself some breathing room before responding. When something triggers you - like getting unfair criticism in a meeting or seeing a rude email - just wait 24 hours before taking action. I know it’s tempting to fire off an angry reply, but often that’s your emotional brain in the heat of the moment.

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A 2026 reminder: Look at all that green

We often obsess over past choices or worry about decisions we didn't take (the black lines). But realistically, we have no idea if those alternate paths would’ve turned out well long-term — even if they seemed appealing at the time.

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How to say no without saying no

If you're good at your job, people inevitably ask for more of your time. But directly saying no can seem unhelpful, while saying yes to everything hurts your actual priorities.

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