Don't ask me why, but a while back I watched a mini-documentary about one of the world's most expensive hobbies:
Keeping koi.
The video-maker visited a collector in Dubai with a "casual" koi collection worth over 10 million dollars. The most valuable fish? Around $250k.
How can a fish be worth more than a mortgage?
The documentary explained:
The difference between a valuable koi and a worthless one isn't a big thing like size or age, but small variations in their scale patterns. If the pattern is even slightly different — maybe just 10% — from a normal koi, the value skyrockets.
In a weird way, there's something koi-like in careers too.
Often, we don’t need to be miles better to stand out. Sometimes, being just 10% different is enough to have a “wow” factor.
Take, for instance...
3 special sentences
The following is a real cold email I saw online that I loved:
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Hi Giuseppe,
I see you’re an active gardener. I just planted some lantanas at my home in Santa Clara, and they aren’t looking too hot. Any advice?
But I’m also a statistics Master’s student at Stanford looking to break into the quantitative trading world. Any chance you could help?
Thanks a ton. (source)
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The second paragraph is just a normal cold email. The first paragraph (lantanas) is the 10% difference that makes it stand out.
And this isn't just a cold email thing. A street of identical houses will sell for the same price, but the one with a treehouse or a funky mailbox sells for more. You meet a hundred people at a networking event, but you remember the one who told that funny joke. The server who does the same job but with a smile gets way more tips.
Small differences are a big deal everywhere.
The nudist buddhist rule
So why do small differences work so well?
People similar to us make us feel safe. People who are totally different make us uncomfortable. Putting yourself between those two extremes is what makes you compelling.
You're conventional enough to tick the expectations box — meeting your audience's desire for conformity and professionalism. But with a few small differences to make you novel and exciting.
A nudist OR a buddhist is compelling, but not a nudist buddhist. (Although, tbh, I think being a nudist on its own is too weird anyway.)
In other words: Instead of being 100% conventional, be 90% conventional with 10% novelty.
But most people never do this.
Professional environments actively train the personality out of you. From your first job, you learn to match the tone, use the same templates, write emails that sound like everyone else's emails.
You learn that fitting in is safe. And it is safe. But safe is also invisible.
You don't need to be wildly different. You just need to be slightly more yourself than everyone else is willing to be.
Here's where to start:
How you show up in conversations
The email strategy I shared earlier is gold (use it). But you can apply the same kinda thing when you talk to people.
For example, in small talk. Why is it boring? Because you already know what they're going to ask you. So throw in some curveballs. Someone's told you they're an accountant. Instead of weather chat or the boring follow up "what types of companies do you work for," try: "Huh. What's the most surprising thing you've learned as an accountant?"
One different question and the conversation goes somewhere nobody expected.
Introducing yourself is another one. Most people introduce themselves exactly the same way ("Hi, I'm [name], I work at [company] as a [title]"). It’s boring, forgettable and makes conversations with new people tough.
❌ Bad: "I work in data science in New York."
✅ Good (10% different): "I'm originally from a tiny town in Ohio, moved to New York about five years ago on a whim, now I do data science at an edtech company. Still not used to paying $7 for a coffee but I love it here."
The second one gives people three things to grab onto.
Your 10% is already there
Here's what the cold email and my other examples all have in common: none of them are about performing. The Stanford student didn't pretend to like gardening. He actually liked gardening. He just let that into a professional context where everyone else would've left it out.
That's the gist. The 10% that makes you memorable isn't something you need to invent. It's something you have but filter out because work is supposed to be "professional."
Some ideas to stimulate your thinking - I call these pattern interrupts.
Instead of labelling a section of an email/report "The Problem," call it "The Murky Bit" or "Where Things Get Interesting." Same information, but it’s a pattern interrupt and gets engagement.
Start a meeting with a short story instead of diving straight into the agenda (like I tried to do with the koi story in this write-up!).
Bring a physical prop to a presentation. Use a whiteboard instead of just slides. Throw a meme into a deck when the moment's right.
Someone who works in the aquarium industry signs off their emails with "Best Fishes." (interesting email signatures are underrated!)
Handwrite a letter. When was the last time you received one? Probably never. So next time you want to thank someone — a mentor, a client, a colleague who helped you out — try writing one. A handwritten note in 2026 says more than any email ever could.
I throw jokes and memes into every essay I write. My "in all unseriousness" section exists at the end because I think career advice doesn't need to be dry to be useful. And I love standup comedy. That's my 10%. It won't be yours — and it shouldn't be (humor is tricky and should only be used in the right rooms!).
The question isn't "what quirky thing can I add?" It's "what am I already filtering out?"
